This is a big statement, isn’t it. When we hear it our minds usually goes to many places and we start asking our selves many questions such as: Are we? and if we are how come there have been many events in my life that I have nothing to do with, and which I wished never had experienced? Many times in our lives we feel as ‘we are only managing circumstances’ or ‘just surviving’.
Particularly when we face a number of ordeals which we had not planned for, or ever desired. Other times we have learned how to manage circumstances that arise in our lives on a regular basis and they become a ‘normal’ or a known part of our lives (a habit). As humans we have the ability to adapt and develop survival strategies that ensure the continuation of our existence. We are all capable of developing the most amazing survival strategies and when we hear stories about individuals surviving through war, abuse, illnesses, poverty, natural disaster or isolation among other things; we develop admiration for those people. We go to the extent of putting those individuals on pedestals and call them heroes.
What we need to understand is that we are all survivors; from the moment of conception you have been surviving. Battling among all the other possible eggs and spermatozoids to pair up to create life, you survived and won the race. Then battling to survive the ﬁrst three months of gestation as 50% of pregnancies are lost during that time, you have also won. Then surviving through the ﬁrst few months and years of your life, as babies are extremely vulnerable to contracting any diseases and dying during that time, you have won. Then surviving by adjusting to learn to walk, talk, and connect with other humans who will support you to survive, you have won. You see!!! you have always been a survivor.
This is not different in humans we all develop the survival mechanism as the ﬁrst and the most important part of the brain. Nature has ensured that we are not extinct from the facet of the earth by providing us with the Limbic System in the brain from the moment of conception. The problem is that if we only live our lives by using our Limbic System in our brain we will face a life of only managing circumstances in order to ensure our survival and we will never be the creators of our lives. The main task of your Limbic System is to ensure that your basic needs are met. All the efforts and energy used by this part of your brain will be only utilized in getting those needs met. Being the creator of you life means being able to understand and manage your Limbic System and see beyond survival. We all see and do survival but not everyone can be the creator of their lives.
Only by developing self awareness and understanding about yourself you can take control of your life. You can create what you desire in your life, and not just be waiting for things to happen so you can manage them the best you can. This could lead you to an existence without meaning and purpose. Self growth is the only way to move beyond just getting your basic needs met and start discovering who you really are and your full potentials. As you discover your full potentials you will be able to use them in whatever way you believe it would provide you with meaning and purpose. It is only then that you can say I am the creator of my life and because of that I am fulﬁlled and contented to life.
Created by Lucy Cabezon-Prieto, 25/09/2016